God Speaks to Peter During His Prayer Time (Acts 10:9)

Prayers of Acts (Acts 10:9)

God Speaks to Peter During His Prayer Time.

Prepared and preached by Pastor Steve Rhodes for and at Bethel Friends Church in Poland, OH, on Sunday, May 17, 2026

I remember being in high school and listening to a sermon. The pastor shared that he was in prayer when the phone rang. He shared, “That phone is not more important than God.” That is true, but maybe sometimes the phone call is God’s answer to our prayers. Several years later, in the summer of 2004, while Meagan was spending time in prayer, her phone rang. She answered the call and received a job offer. I don’t know if she was praying for a job at that time, but the job was an answer to prayer.

Have you ever been convicted to change your prayer life? Has God ever answered your prayers in different ways?

We are in a year-long focus on prayer. Recently, we have been looking at prayers in the book of Acts.

My theme: God speaks to Peter during his prayer time.

  1. What is happening in Acts 10?
    1. Our focus will be on one verse: Acts 10:9. But we must talk about the context.
    2. What is the context?
    3. In Acts 10:1-9, God instructs a Gentile man on how to find Peter. This was a gentile centurion, who was a God-fearer. This means that he was non-Jewish but interested in Jewish matters. He prayed and gave gifts to the poor (Acts 10:2).
    4. Cornelius was a centurion, a commander of 100 men, and a member of the Italian Cohort. (A “cohort” consisted of 600 men under the command of six centurions, but with auxiliary forces in remote areas such as Judea a “cohort” might have as many as 1,000 men.) Ten cohorts formed a “legion.” Centurions were paid very well (as much as five times the pay of an ordinary soldier), so Cornelius would have been socially prominent and wealthy.[1]
    5. In Acts 10:7-8, he had sent servants to Joppa to find Peter.
    6. Cornelius is a man of prayer. We see this in Acts 10:2. God says that his prayers and alms have been heard (Acts 10:4). Now, we see Peter praying.
    7. Acts 10:9–12 (ESV)
    8. The next day, as they were on their journey and approaching the city, Peter went up on the housetop about the sixth hour to pray. 10 And he became hungry and wanted something to eat, but while they were preparing it, he fell into a trance 11 and saw the heavens opened and something like a great sheet descending, being let down by its four corners upon the earth. 12 In it were all kinds of animals and reptiles and birds of the air.
    9. The servants are on their journey, and Peter goes up on the housetop to pray.
    10. This is about the sixth hour.
    11. Houses in Judea typically had flat roofs accessible by ladders or stairs.[2]
    12. This would have been about noon.[3]
    13. Noon was not a regular hour of prayer (3:1), so Peter prays in addition to the traditional hours followed by many of his contemporaries.[4]
    14. In Acts 10:10, we see that Peter is hungry.
    15. Peter is not hungry from any special fast; noon was the normal time for a meal in Rome and may have been in Joppa as well. Philo described the state here attributed to Peter as “divine intoxication,” when the soul is so filled with God that one loses touch with one’s surroundings; but in contrast to Philo and apocalyptists who sought mystical experiences, Peter has done nothing intentionally to bring it about.[5]
    16. He falls into a trance.
    17. In verse 11, he sees the heavens opened…
    18. What was this like?
    19. The “heavens” likely refers to the sky opening. Though it could refer to another dimension opening.
    20. In Acts 10:12, we see the description of what he saw.
    21. IVP BBC NT: Even Palestinian Jews most lenient in other regards kept kosher. Thus this vision would present a horrifying situation for any first-century Palestinian Jew (and the vast majority of foreign Jews as well): God commands Peter to eat all these unclean, forbidden creatures. Hungry he may be (10:10), but he is not that hungry![6]
    22. ESV SB: Jewish law forbade the consumption of unclean animals (see Lev. 11:2–47).[7]
    23. See Mark 7:19, in which Jesus made all foods clean.
  2. The command (10:13–16)
    1. Acts 10:13–16 (ESV)
    2. 13 And there came a voice to him: “Rise, Peter; kill and eat.” 14 But Peter said, “By no means, Lord; for I have never eaten anything that is common or unclean.” 15 And the voice came to him again a second time, “What God has made clean, do not call common.” 16 This happened three times, and the thing was taken up at once to heaven.
    3. God’s order (Acts 10:13): “Kill and eat them.”
    4. Peter’s objection (Acts 10:14): “Never, Lord, I have never in all my life eaten anything forbidden by our Jewish laws.”
    5. God’s overrule (Acts 10:15–16): “If God says something is acceptable, don’t say it isn’t.”
    6. The confusion (10:17-18): Peter wonders what all this means.
    7. Without the vision it is unlikely that Peter would have met with the messengers from Cornelius and gone with them to Caesarea. In a vision that lasted only minutes Peter determined to obey God even if it was contrary to many of the biases he had held for a lifetime.[8]
    8. I read the following:
    9. I recently heard about a missionary in a dangerous part of the Middle East who started an underground church. Locals tried to discover the location of that assembly in order to persecute the believers there, but they could never find it. Late one night, however, the missionary heard a knock on the door of the secret church. He cautiously opened it to see a tribesman standing there. The man explained that he had walked for days in order to find the missionary. He said, “I had a vision three days ago that there would be a man standing at this address who would tell me how to get to heaven. Sir, are you this man?” That tribesman, like Cornelius, was given a vision leading him to an evangelist who would teach him how to cross from spiritual death to abundant life.
    10. An old classmate was recently ministering to Muslims in Washington, DC. One day a Muslim man approached him and asked, “Who is ‘I Am’? I keep seeing ‘I Am’ in my dreams.” After giving a summary explanation, he gave the seeker a Bible and encouraged him to read the Gospel of John. It wasn’t long until he led the man to faith in Jesus, and at that point the convert confessed, “Many of the ‘I am’ statements I read in John I heard first in my dreams!” This story, too, reminds us that even when God uses visions to nudge people toward faith in Christ, evangelists must still do the exciting work of explaining the gospel to them that they might understand and embrace it with confidence.[9]
    11. In the next few verses, we see Cornelius’s servants arrive.
  3.  Application:
    1. Pray, pray, and pray.
    2. In this passage, Peter is praying, but it is not a normal prayer time.
    3. That is not the key point of the passage, but I do find it interesting that Peter and Cornelius are both men of prayer.
    4. I think it is important to have regular prayer times and to pray whenever we are led.
    5. For some reason, Peter felt compelled to pray, and God gave him a vision.
    6. Do our devotions ever get stuck?
    7. Do we ever feel like we are praying the same way, all the time?
    8. Do we need to change something?
    9. Try a different way to mix up your spiritual disciplines.
    10. The sexton [custodian] of a metropolitan church noticed scraps of paper in a certain pew in the sanctuary after each Sunday service. One day he made bold to examine the crumpled pieces of paper. He found such notes as: “Mary—ill; Bob, needs job; her rent due; my needs …” After a few weeks of this, the faithful custodian shared the mystery with the pastor, who alerted several members who sat in the area where messages were found to please identify, if possible, the person who was leaving tidbits of information each Sunday. The quiet plan succeeded. In due time, the minister adroitly engaged the lady in conversation in his study about the intriguing practice of leaving notes addressed to various people in her pew.
    11. Smiling, the gentle lady declared that the bits of paper had deep meaning for her. “You will think it silly, but sometime ago I read, ‘Take your troubles to church with you.’ So I write down my concerns, burdens, and needs on little pieces of paper, take them to church, pray about them, and leave them there. I feel God is taking care of them![10]
    12. Maybe some of us need to be like Peter and pray at noon for a few days.
    13. Maybe we need to write our prayers, or try praying scripture, or ask the Lord to increase our faith.
    14. Maybe a few of us need to pray and watch. Watch for the Lord to answer in various ways.
    15. Maybe we need to be reminded to consistently pray.
    16. We must keep praying, don’t give up.
    17. There are needs, and all of our needs go back to the Lord. We need His help.

Jim Cymbala writes: (footnote below)

All my talking about prayer faced a severe test several years ago when Carol and I went through the darkest two-and-a-half-year tunnel we could imagine.

Our oldest daughter, Chrissy, had been a model child growing up. But around age sixteen she started to stray. I admit I was slow to notice this—I was too occupied with the church, starting branch congregations, overseeing projects, and all the rest that ministry entails.

Meanwhile, Chrissy not only drew away from us, but also away from God. In time, she even left our home. There were many nights when we had no idea where she was.

As the situation grew more serious, I tried everything. I begged, I pleaded, I scolded, I argued, I tried to control her with money. Looking back, I recognize the foolishness of my actions. Nothing worked; she just hardened more and more. Her boyfriend was everything we did not want for our child.

How I kept functioning through that period I don’t know. Many a Sunday morning I would put on my suit, get into the car to drive to the Tabernacle early, ahead of Carol . . . and cry for the next twenty-five minutes, all the way to the church door. “God, how am I going to get through three meetings today? I don’t want to make myself the center of attention. The people have problems of their own—they’re coming for help and encouragement. But what about me? I’m hanging by a thread. Oh, God, please . . . my firstborn, my Chrissy.”

Somehow God would pull my nerves together enough for me to function through another long Sunday. There were moments, however, as we were worshiping God and singing, that my spirit would almost seem to run away from the meeting to intercede for Chrissy. I had to control myself to stay focused on the people and their needs.

While this was going on, we learned that Carol needed an operation—a hysterectomy. As she tried to adjust afterward, the devil took the opportunity to come after her and say, You might have this big choir, and you’re making albums and doing outreaches at Radio City Music Hall and all the rest. Fine, you and your husband can go ahead to reach the world for Christ—but I’m going to have your children. I’ve already got the first one. I’m coming for the next two.

Like any mother who loves her children, Carol was smitten with tremendous fear and distress. Her family meant more to her than a choir. One day she said to me, “Listen, we need to leave New York. I’m serious. This atmosphere has already swallowed up our daughter. We can’t keep raising kids here. If you want to stay, you can—but I’m getting our other children out.” She wasn’t kidding.

I said, “Carol, we just can’t do that. We can’t unilaterally take off without knowing what God wants us to do.”

Carol wasn’t being rebellious; she was just depressed after the surgery. She elected not to pack up and run after all. And it was at that low point that she went to the piano one day, and God gave her a song that has touched more people than perhaps anything else she has written:

In my moments of fear,

Through every pain, every tear,

There’s a God who’s been faithful to me.

When my strength was all gone,

When my heart had no song,

Still in love he’s proved faithful to me.

Every word he’s promised is true;

What I thought was impossible, I see my God do.

He’s been faithful, faithful to me,

Looking back, his love and mercy I see.

Though in my heart I have questioned,

Even failed to believe,

Yet he’s been faithful, faithful to me.

When my heart looked away,

The many times I could not pray,

Still my God, he was faithful to me.

The days I spent so selfishly,

Reaching out for what pleased me;

Even then God was faithful to me

Every time I come back to him,

He is waiting with open arms,

And I see once again.

He’s been faithful, faithful to me. . . .

Were we calling on the Lord through all of this? In a sense we were. But I couldn’t help jumping in to take action on my own too. I was still, to some degree, the point guard wanting to grab the basketball, push it down the floor, make something happen, press through any hole in the defense I could find. But the more I pressed, the worse Chrissy got.

Then one November, I was alone in Florida when I received a call from a minister whom I had persuaded Chrissy to talk to. “Jim,” he said, “I love you and your wife, but the truth of the matter is, Chrissy’s going to do what Chrissy’s going to do. You don’t really have much choice, now that she’s eighteen. She’s determined. You’re going to have to accept whatever she decides.”

I hung up the phone. Something very deep within me began to cry out. “Never! I will never accept Chrissy being away from you, Lord!” I knew that if she continued on the present path, there would be nothing but destruction awaiting her.

Once again, as back in 1972, there came a divine showdown. God strongly impressed me to stop crying, screaming, or talking to anyone else about Chrissy. I was to converse with no one but God. In fact, I knew I should have no further contact with Chrissy—until God acted! I was just to believe and obey what I had preached so often—

Call upon me in the day of trouble, and I will answer you.

I dissolved in a flood of tears. I knew I had to let go of this situation.

Back home in New York, I began to pray with an intensity and growing faith as never before. Whatever bad news I would receive about Chrissy, I kept interceding and actually began praising God for what I knew he would do soon. I made no attempts to see her. Carol and I endured the Christmas season with real sadness. I was pathetic, sitting around trying to open presents with our other two children, without Chrissy.

February came. One cold Tuesday night during the prayer meeting, I talked from Acts 4 about the church boldly calling on God in the face of persecution. We entered into a time of prayer, everyone reaching out to the Lord simultaneously.

An usher handed me a note. A young woman whom I felt to be spiritually sensitive had written: “Pastor Cymbala, I feel impressed that we should stop the meeting and all pray for your daughter.”

I hesitated. Was it right to change the flow of the service and focus on my personal need?

Yet something in the note seemed to ring true. In a few minutes I picked up a microphone and told the congregation what had just happened. “The truth of the matter,” I said, “although I haven’t talked much about it, is that my daughter is very far from God these days. She thinks up is down, and down is up; dark is light, and light is dark. But I know God can break through to her, and so I’m going to ask Pastor Boekstaaf to lead us in praying for Chrissy. Let’s all join hands across the sanctuary.”

As my associate began to lead the people, I stood behind him with my hand on his back. My tear ducts had run dry, but I prayed as best I knew.

To describe what happened in the next minutes, I can only employ a metaphor: The church turned into a labor room. The sounds of women giving birth are not pleasant, but the results are wonderful. Paul knew this when he wrote, “My dear children, for whom I am again in the pains of childbirth until Christ is formed in you . . .” (Gal. 4:19).

There arose a groaning, a sense of desperate determination, as if to say, “Satan, you will not have this girl. Take your hands off her—she’s coming back!” I was overwhelmed. The force of that vast throng calling on God almost literally knocked me over.

When I got home that night, Carol was waiting up for me. We sat at the kitchen table drinking coffee, and I said, “It’s over.”

“What’s over?” she wondered.

“It’s over with Chrissy. You would have had to be in the prayer meeting tonight. I tell you, if there’s a God in heaven, this whole nightmare is finally over.” I described what had taken place.

BACK FROM THE ABYSS

Thirty-two hours later, on Thursday morning, as I was shaving, Carol suddenly burst through the door, her eyes wide. “Go downstairs!” she blurted. “Chrissy’s here.”

“Chrissy’s here?”

“Yes! Go down!”

“But Carol—I—”

“Just go down,” she urged. “It’s you she wants to see.”

I wiped off the shaving foam and headed down the stairs, my heart pounding. As I came around the corner, I saw my daughter on the kitchen floor, rocking on her hands and knees, sobbing. Cautiously I spoke her name:

“Chrissy?”

She grabbed my pant leg and began pouring out her anguish. “Daddy—Daddy—I’ve sinned against God. I’ve sinned against myself. I’ve sinned against you and Mommy. Please forgive me—”

My vision was as clouded by tears as hers. I pulled her up from the floor and held her close as we cried together.

Suddenly she drew back. “Daddy,” she said with a start, “who was praying for me? Who was praying for me?” Her voice was like that of a cross-examining attorney.

“What do you mean, Chrissy?”

“On Tuesday night, Daddy—who was praying for me?” I didn’t say anything, so she continued:

“In the middle of the night, God woke me and showed me I was heading toward this abyss. There was no bottom to it—it scared me to death. I was so frightened. I realized how hard I’ve been, how wrong, how rebellious.

“But at the same time, it was like God wrapped his arms around me and held me tight. He kept me from sliding any farther as he said, ‘I still love you.’

“Daddy, tell me the truth—who was praying for me Tuesday night?

I looked into her bloodshot eyes, and once again I recognized the daughter we had raised.

Chrissy’s return to the Lord became evident immediately. By that fall, God had opened a miraculous door for her to enroll at a Bible college, where she not only undertook studies but soon began directing music groups and a large choir, just like her mother. Today she is a pastor’s wife in the Midwest with three wonderful children. Through all this, Carol and I learned as never before that persistent calling upon the Lord breaks through every stronghold of the devil, for nothing is impossible with God.

For Christians in these troubled times, there is simply no other way.[1]

[1] Jim Cymbala and Dean Merrill, Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire: What Happens When God’s Spirit Invades the Hearts of His People (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2018), 61–68.

Legend has it that a man was lost in the desert, just dying for a drink of water. He stumbled upon an old shack—a ramshackled, windowless, roofless, weatherbeaten old shack. He looked about this place and found a little shade from the heat of the desert sun. As he glanced around he saw a pump about fifteen feet away—an old, rusty water pump. He stumbled over to it, grabbed the handle, and began to pump up and down, up and down. Nothing came out.

Disappointed, he staggered back. He noticed off to the side an old jug. He looked at it, wiped away the dirt and dust, and read a message that said, “You have to prime the pump with all the water in this jug, my friend. P.S.: Be sure you fill the jug again before you leave.”

He popped the cork out of the jug and sure enough, it was almost full of water! Suddenly, he was faced with a decision. If he drank the water, he could live. Ah, but if he poured all the water in the old rusty pump, maybe it would yield fresh, cool water from down deep in the well, all the water he wanted.

He studied the possibility of both options. What should he do, pour it into the old pump and take a chance on fresh, cool water or drink what was in the old jug and ignore its message? Should he waste all the water on the hopes of those flimsy instructions written, no telling how long ago?

Reluctantly he poured all the water into the pump. Then he grabbed the handle and began to pump, squeak, squeak, squeak. Still nothing came out! Squeak, squeak, squeak. A little bit began to dribble out, then a small stream, and finally it gushed! To his relief fresh, cool water poured out of the rusty pump. Eagerly, he filled the jug and drank from it. He filled it another time and once again drank its refreshing contents.

Then he filled the jug for the next traveler. He filled it to the top, popped the cork back on, and added this little note: “Believe me, it really works. You have to give it all away before you can get anything back.”[11]

Keep praying and ask the Lord to increase your faith.

Pray

 

[1] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 2102–2103.

[2] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 2103.

[3] Stanley E. Porter, “Acts,” in CSB Study Bible: Notes, ed. Edwin A. Blum and Trevin Wax (Nashville, TN: Holman Bible Publishers, 2017), 1735.

[4] Craig S. Keener, The IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1993), Ac 10:9.

[5] Craig S. Keener, The IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1993), Ac 10:10.

[6] Craig S. Keener, The IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1993), Ac 10:11–13.

[7] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 2103.

[8] William H. Marty, “Acts,” in The Moody Bible Commentary, ed. Michael A. Rydelnik and Michael Vanlaningham (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2014), 1695.

[9] Tony Merida, Exalting Jesus in Acts (Nashville, TN: Holman Reference, 2017), 148.

[10] G. Curtis Jones, 1000 Illustrations for Preaching and Teaching (Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman Publishers, 1986), 296–297.

[11] Charles R. Swindoll, The Tale of the Tardy Oxcart and 1501 Other Stories (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 2016), 197.

Paul greets Rufus’s mother.

The application: Maternal gifts influence more than biological children.

Today, we celebrate mothers.

Mothers know that when you hear a child flush the toilet and say ‘uh oh’, it’s already too late. 

Mothers know a 3-year old boy’s voice is louder than 200 adults in a crowded restaurant. 

Mothers know that a puddle is a small body of water that draws other small bodies wearing dry shoes into it. 

Mothers know that the top bunk is where you should never put a little boy wearing Superman pajamas. 

Mothers are also aware of two mysterious people living in the house: Somebody and Nobody. Somebody did it, and Nobody knows who.[1] 

God has gifted us with a family order. God has gifted us with mothers. Most years, I try to create a special sermon for Mother’s Day. Today, I had planned a sermon based on Eph. 6:1-3- honor your father and mother, for this is right. Last night, I realized that the sermon needed to be changed. Think about the many gifts God has given mothers; one is hospitality.

Think about hospitality:

Marcella, who was born to a noble Roman family in 325, was highly revered by Jerome, the 4th-century translator of the Latin Vulgate version of the Bible. This noblewoman offered her palace as a sanctuary for Christians who were being persecuted, and was active in leading Bible classes and prayer meetings among the other noblewomen.

Though widowed at an early age and having no children, she chose to not remarry and instead devoted herself to serving Christ and the church. When Pope Damasus commissioned scholar Jerome to make a newly revised translation of the Gospels, taking the latest available Hebrew and Greek texts and translating them into Latin, Jerome moved into Marcella’s retreat house palace for the duration of his task. For three years, he depended upon Marcella and her other house guests to critique his ongoing work, which eventually became a classic, the Latin Vulgate Bible.

Marcella founded the first convent for women in the Western church, and gave liberally of her wealth to help other Christians, clearly showing to her fellow noblewomen that greater rewards and fulfillment come from storing up treasures in heaven than from hoarding treasures on earth.

Let’s look at:

Romans 16:13 (ESV)

13 Greet Rufus, chosen in the Lord; also his mother, who has been a mother to me as well.

My theme today is:

Paul greets Rufus’s mother.

The application: Maternal gifts influence more than biological children.

  1. Context:
    1. As I share the context, notice a bonus teaching. Notice all the women in Romans 16.
    2. Romans 16 includes a passage in which Paul is extending greetings to many people.
    3. Paul has shared deep theology in Romans chapters 1-11.
    4. Paul has shared a lot about Christian living in Romans chapters 14-15.
    5. Now, Paul is giving final greetings.
    6. I have heard some share that Paul cannot say “hello” without declaring the Gospel. We see that in this section as we see some great theology in verse 20.
    7. Let’s read verses 1-2, Romans 16:1-2: I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a servant of the church at Cenchreae,that you may welcome her in the Lord in a way worthy of the saints, and help her in whatever she may need from you, for she has been a patron of many and of myself as well.
    8. T. Wright points out that we cannot prove it, but it is likely that the one who delivered the letter read it. In this case, that is Phoebe. This would be a woman giving the public reading of Scripture.
    9. Notice that the ministry of women in the Roman church is quite evident in this chapter. Paul referred to nine prominent women: Phoebe, Prisca, Mary, Tryphena, Thyphosa, Persis, Rufus’ mother, Julia, and Nereus’ sister.[2]
    10. This is really powerful, how Paul commends Phoebe and calls her a servant. It could actually be rendered as “deaconess.”
    11. This also tells where she is from, “Cenchrea.”
    12. In verse 2, Paul tells them to “welcome” or “receive her,” but receive her “in the Lord.”
    13. Paul wants them to help her in whatever she needs from them.
    14. She has been a patron, or “helper” of many including Paul. Phoebe served as a patron, probably with financial assistance and hospitality.[3]
    15. Paul sends greetings to 26 individuals (Romans 16:3–16).[4]
    16. Verse 7: Andronicus and Junia (6 people greeted now). Paul calls them outstanding among the apostles, fellow prisoners, and they were in Christ before Him. Junia is a female.
    17. CSB: The word “apostle” can be used in a nontechnical sense, referring to a messenger rather than a commissioned apostle such as Paul.[5]
    18. Verse 13: Rufus (16 greeted). Paul says that he is chosen in the Lord. His mother has been a mother to Paul.
  2. Who was Rufus?
    1. Mark 15:21 says, “A certain man from Cyrene, Simon, the father of Alexander and Rufus, was passing by on his way in from the country, and they forced him to carry the cross.”
    2. Biblical scholars generally agree that he was one of the sons of Simon of Cyrene, the man enlisted to carry Jesus’ cross (cf. Mk 15:21) and was likely saved through that contact with Christ. Mark wrote his gospel in Rome, possibly after the letter to Rome was written, and circulated. Paul would not have mentioned Rufus if that name were not well known to the church in Rome.[6]
    3. Paul’s allusion to the mother as “his mother … to me as well” suggests deep affection for the family.[7]
    4. I like what one source shares:
    5. In what way she acted as Paul’s mother may only be surmised—perhaps as one who had cared for his physical needs, perhaps even as a mother ‘in the Lord’ who ministered to his spiritual needs (cf. 2 Tim. 1:5). Theodoret of Cyrrhus says: ‘The mother of Rufus by nature had become Paul’s mother by grace’.37 Jewett observes: ‘To refer to Rufus’s mother as “mine” indicates that she had provided hospitality and patronage in such a manner that Paul has at some point in his career became virtually a member of their family’.38,[8]
  3. The powerful influence of mothers-
    1. Think about this: here is Paul, listing all these people who supported him; he mentions one whose mother was like a mother to him.
    2. This is important.
    3. Paul was traveling the known world, he had a thorn in his side (2 Cor. 12), he had been beaten many times (2 Cor. 11), shipwrecked, and much more. Who was this woman? How much did she mean to the Apostle Paul?
    4. Did she visit him?
    5. Did she write to him?
    6. Did she support him?
    7. Was she a listening ear to him?
    8. Was she hospitable to him?
    9. Did she remind him of his mother?
    10. Can we think of someone who was a stand-in mother to us?
    11. Maybe a teacher, a coach, a friend’s mother.
    12. Maybe a grandma?
    13. Women, have you been a maternal influence on others?
    14. Maybe some of you have not had children, but you were a mother to others?
    15. Also, notice how important community and hospitality were to the apostle Paul.
    16. Can we find something good to say about others? Look at how encouraging Paul is in this passage. He is encouraging all of them. He is finding good things to say about them. He is positive.
    17. A member of a certain church, who previously had been attending services regularly, stopped going. After a few weeks, the pastor decided to visit him.

      It was a chilly evening. The pastor found the man at home alone, sitting before a blazing fire. Guessing the reason for his pastor’s visit, the man welcomed him, led him to a comfortable chair near the fireplace and waited.

      The pastor made himself at home but said nothing. In the grave silence, he contemplated the dance of the flames around the burning logs. After some minutes, the pastor took the fire tongs, carefully picked up a brightly burning ember and placed it to one side of the hearth all alone then he sat back in his chair, still silent.

      The host watched all this in quiet contemplation. As the one lone ember’s flame flickered and diminished, there was a momentary glow and then its fire was no more. Soon it was cold and dead.

      Not a word had been spoken since the initial greeting. The pastor glanced at his watch and realized it was time to leave. He slowly stood up, picked up the cold, dead ember and placed it back in the middle of the fire. Immediately it began to glow, once more with the light and warmth of the burning coals around it.

      As the pastor reached the door to leave, his host said with a tear running down his cheek, ‘Thank you so much for your visit and especially for the firey sermon. I will be back in church next Sunday.’

David Jeremiah writes:

This “family rule” is well illustrated in the story “The Old Man and His Grandson,” from the collection Household Tales by the Grimm brothers:

There was once a very old man, whose eyes had become dim, his ears dull of hearing, his knees trembled, and when he sat at the table he could hardly hold the spoon, and spit the broth upon the table-cloth or let it run out of his mouth. His son and his son’s wife were disgusted at this, so the old grandfather at last had to sit in the corner behind the stove, and they gave him his food in an earthenware bowl, and not even enough of it. And he used to look towards the table with his eyes full of tears. Once, too, his trembling hands could not hold the bowl, and it fell to the ground and broke. The young wife scolded him, but he said nothing and only sighed. Then they bought him a wooden bowl for a few half-pence, out of which he had to eat.

They were once sitting thus when the little grandson of four years old began to gather together some bits of wood upon the ground. “What are you doing there?” asked the father. “I am making a little trough,” answered the child, “for father and mother to eat out of when I am big.”

The man and his wife looked at each other for a while, and presently began to cry. Then they took the old grandfather to the table, and henceforth always let him eat with them, and likewise said nothing if he did spill a little of anything.13,[9]

 

 

 

[1] Adapted from: https://firstbaptistscottcity.org/2014/05/12/sermon-romans-1613-rufus-mother/

[2] Tom Constable, Tom Constable’s Expository Notes on the Bible (Galaxie Software, 2003), Ro 16:1.

[3] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 2184.

[4] H. L. Willmington, The Outline Bible (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1999), Ro 16:3–16.

[5] Paige Patterson, “Salvation in the Old Testament,” in CSB Study Bible: Notes, ed. Edwin A. Blum and Trevin Wax (Nashville, TN: Holman Bible Publishers, 2017), 1805.

[6] John F. MacArthur Jr., The MacArthur Study Bible: New American Standard Bible. (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 2006), Ro 16:13.

[7] R. C. Sproul, ed., The Reformation Study Bible: English Standard Version (2015 Edition) (Orlando, FL: Reformation Trust, 2015), 2009.

37 ‘Interpretation of the Letter to the Romans’ (ACCSR, 374).

38 Jewett, Romans, 969.

[8] Colin G. Kruse, Paul’s Letter to the Romans, ed. D. A. Carson, The Pillar New Testament Commentary (Cambridge, U.K.; Nottingham, England; Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company; Apollos, 2012), 570.

13 Jacob and Wilhelm Grimm, The Complete Grimm’s Fairy Tales (Digireads.com, 2009), 185.

[9] David Jeremiah, God Loves You: He Always Has–He Always Will (New York City, NY: FaithWords, 2012).

Special Topic- Words of Encouragement

Special Topic- Words of Encouragement (Proverbs 16:24)

Prepared and preached by Pastor Steve Rhodes for and at Bethel Friends Church in Poland, OH on Sunday, May 3, 2026

I have adapted the following from Timothy Keller-

You know the Grimms’ fairytale about the three women who came on by, and there was some little elf or dwarf who asked them for food, and the first girl said, “No, I don’t have it. I’m not going to share my sandwich with you.” So he snapped his fingers, and because she was a foul-mouthed girl, from then on, every time she ever opened her mouth, a toad sprang out.

Then her sister came on by, and the elf came and said, “I sure am hungry. I sure wish you’d give me some of your food,” and she said, “Of course. I’d be happy to do that. How are you doing? You look like you’re very tired.” She just said wonderful things to him, and he snapped his fingers, and from then on, every time she spoke, she was able to speak, but at the end of the thing she said, out would pop a gold coin. That’s how the fairytale goes.

Timothy Keller adds:

Ultimately, your words have power of their own. They have a life of their own. My question is … When you open your mouth, do people yawn, do people cringe, or do they treasure what you say? Go to him and say, “Lord, I need a heart full of wisdom. I need a heart close to you so I will have a tongue that’s articulate.” People looked at Jesus and said, “His words are so gracious.” Are your words things of beauty?[1]

What do you think? Do our words have power? What are they communicating? Are we encouragers?

My theme is: Let’s have gracious words.

  1. Context
    1. We are going to look at Proverbs 16:24 and what the verse says about our words.
    2. First, what are the Proverbs?
    3. The Proverbs are a book of the Old Testament that addresses general principles of wisdom. They are not promises.
    4. God has placed an order in creation to which we should pay attention in order to live wisely.[2]
    5. Other ancient cultures had proverbs, but the biblical Proverbs are different. As one source shares:
    6. it would be a mistake to treat the Biblical texts as just another version of ancient wisdom. In grandeur of scope, internal complexity and theological profundity, the Biblical texts of Proverbs, Job and Ecclesiastes are in a class by themselves.[3]
    7. Secondly, what about the context?
    8. Though I usually teach that we must put passages in context, Proverbs are short, pithy statements. They do not flow together like normal prose. The Proverbs is an anthology, more of a scrapbook.
    9. Still, we can see that, starting in Proverbs 16:20, the author, most likely Solomon, is referring to our words.
    10. The idea of our words is spread out throughout Proverbs.
  2. Gracious words are like honeycomb.
    1. Proverbs 16:24 (ESV) Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.
    2. The verse is simple enough. When our words are gracious, they are like honeycomb.
    3. This is something with cavities, made by bees and filled with honey. What is the point? Honeycomb is filled with honey, and honey is sweet.
    4. Solomon writes that these words sweeten the soul.
    5. Is he talking about the spiritual soul? Or is he using the soul to refer to the emotional part of the body?
    6. I favor the latter. He is generically talking about the soul to mean that gracious words encourage us emotionally.
    7. Further, they give health to the body.
    8. In Solomon’s day, there were not many choices for sweets. They needed the sweetness that honey would offer.
    9. He could say that “as honey gives health to the body, so do gracious words.”
    10. These verses commend the speech characteristic of the wise of heart (vv. 21a, 23a): the wise consider their words carefully (vv. 20a, 23a) so that their words are both persuasive (vv. 21b, 23b) and good for body and soul (v. 24); they exhibit faithfulness to God (v. 20b) and are considered discerning by others (v. 21a). Such wisdom is a fountain of life, and foolish speech is empty of any such benefits (v. 22).[4]
  3.  Applications:
    1. Gracious words impact the Gospel.
    2. I don’t think people become Christians by mean people.
    3. [I have adapted this from Timothy Keller]: Benjamin Franklin did not like Christians, and he especially didn’t like George Whitefield, who was a great preacher.
    4. One day, he found that every single time he went to hear Whitefield preach, he got so persuaded by the power of his words, he kept giving money to the orphanage. George Whitefield used to raise money for an orphanage in Georgia, and Benjamin Franklin really didn’t like all of his stuff, but every time he went, he found himself giving money, so one day he says, “I’m going to go hear Whitefield preach because he’s an amazing orator, but I’m not taking any money with me, because his words are so powerful that I might give it.”
    5. At the end, when Whitefield asks for the offering, Franklin turns to the guy next to him and says, “Can I borrow $10?” It’s true. Some people are better with words than others, but why?[5]
    6. Our words spread the Gospel, don’t they? They do. We use words to represent the Gospel and we use words to spread the gospel.
    7. We use words and so does God.
    8. [Adapted from Tim Keller]: It’s very interesting to contrast Christianity with Eastern religions at this point. Very interesting. Because Eastern religions believe God is impersonal, that he is not a he; he’s an it. He’s a force, and therefore, he doesn’t speak. As a result, you’ll find that in Eastern religions, words and speech are not as important. As one Buddhist once said to me … I said, “Do you pray?” and he said, “Of course I don’t pray. I meditate.” It’s an utterly different thing. In prayer, you are reaching out. You’re trying to understand and be understood. You’re pouring out. You’re trying to express. Actually, most of the Buddhist writings I have read say speech is something we need to suppress in order to become one with God. We have to intuit. We don’t analyze. In fact, there is a whole pile of people who say the only way to really reach enlightenment, satori, or nirvana is to stop speaking altogether. In Eastern thought, God is not personal. Therefore, speech is denigrated, but in Christianity, your speech … Not only is this a mark of God … We have a God who speaks. That’s what’s so wonderful about the Bible. We have a God who speaks. That’s why we have a Bible. And it’s also the reason why your own speech has such incredible power.[6]
    9. Our Lord communicated to us through His Word and through the Holy Spirit.
    10. Proverbs 16:21 (ESV) The wise of heart is called discerning, and sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness.
    11. Are our words sweet?
    12. Are our words encouraging?
    13. Are we able to give grace?
    14. That doesn’t mean we don’t speak truth.
    15. Can we embody love?
    16. Next time we feel like we need to correct someone, or speak out, can we pause and think, “How can I do this with grace? How can I do this in a sweet way?
    17. Proverbs 15:1 (ESV) A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
    18. Maybe, just maybe, we need to think, do I really need to say this? Maybe we should simply encourage and love.
    19. Proverbs 18:21 (ESV) Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
    20. Proverbs 17:28 (ESV) Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.

There’s a place in Perelandra, the second one of Lewis’s Space Trilogy, where the lady looks at the human and says, “How often your race speaks. You had nothing to say, and yet you made the nothing into words.” Somebody once said to Benjamin Franklin, “You talk so quickly that nobody feels that they can disagree with you, and therefore you’ll never learn anything more than you know now, which isn’t much.”[7]

Let’s pray for the Holy Spirit to help us with our words.

Prayer

 

[1] Timothy J. Keller, The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive (New York City: Redeemer Presbyterian Church, 2013).

[2] Kenneth L. Barker, ed., NIV Study Bible, Fully Revised Edition (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2020), 1056.

[3] Archaeological Study Bible; intro to Proverbs

[4] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 1163.

[5] Timothy J. Keller, The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive (New York City: Redeemer Presbyterian Church, 2013).

[6] Timothy J. Keller, The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive (New York City: Redeemer Presbyterian Church, 2013).

[7] Timothy J. Keller, The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive (New York City: Redeemer Presbyterian Church, 2013).