The Relationship of Naomi and Ruth: God’s Providence Working through Their Love, Loyalty, and Wise Counsel.
Prepared and preached by Pastor Steve Rhodes for and at Bethel Friends Church in Poland, OH on Sunday, May 12, 2024
Tony Evans writes:
All of us have either been in or been to a wedding. A wedding is a combination of discontinuity and continuity. Discontinuity speaks of a cut with the past. Continuity speaks with something that is ongoing from the past. When a couple gets married, they break a family tie that was the dominant family tie prior to their wedding. It’s particularly true for the female, but normatively true for both parties as they disconnect with their mother and father as their primary point of family reference. And then they go out and begin a new household.
Yet although they disconnect with yesterday’s family ties, they continue a magnificent institution called family. It’s not the same as the one they are disconnecting from but it continues the same principle of family. God calls this connection a covenant. The word covenant can be seen all the way through the Bible as God’s word to explain or describe a new relationship.596,[1]
When you marry someone, you also marry their family.
Today, I want to give us a portrait of a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. We will gain insights into the relationship between Naomi and Ruth. Naomi is her mother-in-law, and Ruth is her daughter-in-law.
- Who was Ruth?
- We do not know much about Ruth beyond the short Old Testament book named after her.
- We can summarize Ruth as follows.
- [She was] a Moabite who married Mahlon of the Judahite family of Elimelech. Widowed and childless, she abandoned her family, country, and faith to accompany her mother-in-law Naomi to Bethlehem. Her radical actions continued as she secured food for herself and Naomi and summoned the relative Boaz to be their redeemer. Boaz married her. She bore a son who became the grandfather of David. The women of Bethlehem exalted Ruth as the loving daughter-in-law who meant more to Naomi than seven sons, the ideal number (Ruth 4:15). Her name appears later in the Matthean genealogy of Jesus (1:5).[2]
- Notice that Ruth would become the “great-grandmother” of David.
- That gives some background and sets up what is going on here.
- In Ruth 1:1-7, we find some background. A man from Bethlehem named Elimelech, who was Hebrew, married a woman in Moab. Her name was Naomi.
- The Moabites were one of the traditional enemies of Israel (Numbers 22:1-25:9).
- Naomi and Elimelech have two sons, Mahlon and Chilion.
- They stay in Moab.
- Naomi’s husband dies.
- Her sons take wives. One was Orpah, and the other was Ruth.
- After about 10 years, their husbands died as well. So now we have three widows: Naomi, Ruth, and Orpah.
- Verse 7 says that Naomi would return to her land, the land of Judah.
- In verse 8, Naomi encourages her daughters-in-law to return home to their mother’s house. They weep together.
- In the next few verses, there is some back and forth. Both daughters-in-law intend to stay with Naomi. Naomi urges them to go. Naomi questions if she has other sons in her womb for them. Naomi’s question assumes that the widows should marry their dead husbands’ brothers (i.e., levirate marriage, Deut. 25:5–10); but they would have to wait for such brothers to be born, and she is considered too old to conceive.[3]
- Orpah leaves Naomi.
- Ruth stays.
- Portrait one of Ruth and Naomi.
- Now, look at Ruth 1:15-18: 15 And she said, “See, your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and to her gods; return after your sister-in-law.” 16 But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you.” 18 And when Naomi saw that she was determined to go with her, she said no more.
- So, we see Naomi’s care for her daughters-in-law and Ruth’s care for her mother-in-law.
- In verse 16, Ruth will go where Naomi goes.
- Ruth will stay where Naomi stays.
- Naomi’s people will be Ruth’s people.
- Notice at the end she says, Ruth says, your God will be my God.
- See, Ruth was not an Israelite. A few verses before, Naomi told them to go back to their “gods.” Verse 15 says that Orpah went back to her “gods.” Back then, different people had different gods.
- But Israel worshipped the One, true God (Ex. 20).
- This is God providentially setting up Ruth to be the great-grandmother of David.
- So, we see Ruth is loyal to Naomi.
- In God’s providence, He is bringing Ruth to Israel.
- Portrait 2 of Ruth and Naomi.
- In Ruth 2, she meets Boaz.
- The testimony about Ruth spreads:
- Ruth 2:10–12 (ESV)
- 10 Then she fell on her face, bowing to the ground, and said to him, “Why have I found favor in your eyes, that you should take notice of me, since I am a foreigner?” 11 But Boaz answered her, “All that you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband has been fully told to me, and how you left your father and mother and your native land and came to a people that you did not know before. 12 The Lord repay you for what you have done, and a full reward be given you by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge!”
- Boaz was a relative of Naomi and will become what they called a “kinsman-redeemer.”
- The role of kinsman-redeemer is found in Leviticus 25, in the case of an Israelite man’s death in which he fails to leave behind a son, the brother of the deceased man is commanded to take his widow as wife and both redeem the land and provide a son to carry on the deceased father’s name.[4]
- Portrait 3 of Ruth and Naomi.
- Now, look at Ruth 3:1–5 (ESV)
- Then Naomi her mother-in-law said to her, “My daughter, should I not seek rest for you, that it may be well with you? 2 Is not Boaz our relative, with whose young women you were? See, he is winnowing barley tonight at the threshing floor. 3 Wash therefore and anoint yourself, and put on your cloak and go down to the threshing floor, but do not make yourself known to the man until he has finished eating and drinking. 4 But when he lies down, observe the place where he lies. Then go and uncover his feet and lie down, and he will tell you what to do.” 5 And she replied, “All that you say I will do.”
- We cannot cover everything in these verses, but let’s notice some things.
- Naomi is giving advice.
- Ruth is following advice. In verse 5, Ruth says, “All that you say, I will do.”
- The advice in this passage is about how to win over Boaz.
- Look at the verses.
- Ruth 3:1: Naomi calls her “daughter.”
- She lovingly talks with her.
- Naomi says, “Shall I not seek rest for you?” This means she wants security and stability and the best for her daughter-in-law.
- In verses 2-4, she gives instructions on how to get his attention at the threshing floor. The winnowing took place during the breezes that begin after sundown.[5]
- These were big festivities.
- Now, we must know that Boaz has already been looking out for Ruth. We could see that in chapter 2.
- At night, someone would guard the grain against being stolen or eaten by animals. Apparently, this was Boaz’s night to be on duty. Dressing as Naomi instructed would not only enhance Ruth’s attractiveness to Boaz but would symbolize an end to her period of mourning for her husband (2Sm 12:20), signaling her willingness to remarry.[6]
- So, in verse 3, Naomi is saying to wait until Boaz is done eating and drinking. Then, lay down at his feet.
- This would begin the conversation about him being her kinsmen redeemer.
- Ruth and Boaz soon married and had a son named Obed.
- What is the significance of Ruth’s life for Christians today?
- Here are the facts:
- She was a loyal daughter-in-law; she was not a Jew or part of the covenant people of Israel; yet she is included as one of two women who were ancestors of Jesus the Christ, our Savior.
- She is a model of redemption and God’s gracious activity in History.
- Her “kinsman-redeemer,” Boaz, a Jew, married her and joined her to the covenant people, a metaphor of what our “kinsman redeemer” Jesus, has done for us.
- The story of Ruth points to Christ who would be the ultimate Kinsman-Redeemer.
- Ruth trusted the Lord, and He rewarded her faithfulness by giving her not only a husband but a son (Obed), a grandson (Jesse), and a great-grandson named David, the king of Israel (Ruth 4:17). Besides these gifts (Psalm 127:3), God gave Ruth the blessing of being listed in the lineage of Jesus (Matthew 1:5).
- Ruth is an example of how God can change a life and take it in a direction He has foreordained. We see Him working out His perfect plan in Ruth’s life, just as He does with all His children (Romans 8:28). Although Ruth came from a pagan background in Moab, once she met the God of Israel, she became a living testimonial to Him by faith. Even though she lived in humble circumstances before marrying Boaz, she believed that God was faithful to care for His people. Also, Ruth is an example to us of hard work and faithfulness. We know that God rewards faithfulness (Hebrews 11:6).[8]
- Like Boaz did to rescue Ruth so Christ will do for us.
- Ruth arrives at Boaz empty-handed and humbled to the core; Boaz treats Ruth with respect and kindness. Jesus does that for us when we are empty and in need.
- It appears that Ruth has little to offer when she comes to her relative Boaz. We also have little to offer Jesus and yet He saves us.
- Ruth came in faith to Israel and accepted the God of Israel.
Mothers, In Ruth, we see an example of a loyal mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. We see wise advice given by Naomi and loyalty, love, and support from Ruth. We see God at work through these difficult times.
Let’s do the same. Mothers prayerfully give wise advice to your adult children and daughters-in-law. Daughters, sons, and in-laws, respect and honor your parents and in-laws.
Prayer.
[1] Tony Evans, Tony Evans’ Book of Illustrations: Stories, Quotes, and Anecdotes from More than 30 Years of Preaching and Public Speaking (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2009), 201.
[2] Paul J. Achtemeier, Harper & Row and Society of Biblical Literature, Harper’s Bible Dictionary (San Francisco: Harper & Row, 1985), 886.
[3] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 479.
[4] https://www.ligonier.org/blog/ultimate-kinsman-redeemer/
[5] Crossway Bibles, The ESV Study Bible (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2008), 481.
[6] Iain M. Duguid, “Ruth,” in CSB Study Bible: Notes, ed. Edwin A. Blum and Trevin Wax (Nashville, TN: Holman Bible Publishers, 2017), 404.